Man Within Podcast

832 - Desire vs Arousal – Know The Difference

This is a HUGE topic today, as the cultural narrative changes regarding attraction, especially as it relates to same-sex attraction and the LGBTQ community.
I want to help you unpack an often muddled and confused topic...the difference between desire and arousal. One of them is a natural, God-given thing, and the other can be shaped by your environment in ways that even override those natural desires.
Plus, you'll learn the third piece of this puzzle and how to heal and bring everything back into alignment.
In this episode, we discuss:
0:43 The difference between desire and arousal
3:07 How to interpret your desires
5:10 Arousal experiences (and how they differ from desire)
9:43 God did not design you incorrectly!
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831 - Jake Hamilton on The Fight for Biblical Masculinity and Authentic Identity

Jake Hamilton is a church planter, a creative entrepreneur, a worship leader, recording artist, and men's movement leader.
He trains men to Fight for what matters while destroying shame, depression, addiction, apathy, and isolation.
In this conversation, Sathiya and Jake cover a ton of ground from the wake-up call in Jake's life, to "whole life integration" (vs. work life balance), to rites of passage, fatherhood, and what men need to truly transform and become the leaders God made them to be.
In this episode, we discuss:
2:25 Jake's story from musician to men's movement leader
8:09 What kind of influence does a leader have to have in your life to be able to deliver a strong, loving, and helpful rebuke?
10:42 Transition and truly putting your family first
19:34 Biblical masculinity and attracting the attention of men who the church often misses
29:47 Rites of passage and initiation tips for dads
39:21 Why men are at the center of fixing marriage, children, and the world
49:00 Opportunities for fathers to step up and lead well
54:19 How men can truly do the work and get the transformation they desire
58:57 How Jake's navigating giving preference to his family in this season of helping men
1:04:20 Whole life integration vs work-life balance
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Resources Mentioned:
Jake Hamilton Website
Jake Hamilton on Instagram
The Fight
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830 - Three Simple Ways To Improve Productivity

What does productivity have to do with porn recovery? A lot!
Porn distracts us, makes us more unproductive, more prone to relating to women unacceptably in the workplace, and generally speaks to a deeper underlying issue that is causing you to literally waste your life.
Here are my top 3 tips to become a more productive man and achieve TRUE freedom.
In this episode, we discuss:
0:34 Why productivity matters on your recovery journey
2:22 Porn addiction at work has increased
5:15 What productivity really is
6:00 Productivity Tip #1: Learn to regulate
7:56 Productivity Tip #2: Eliminate distractions
10:20 Productivity Tip #3: Get rid of seemingly healthy vices
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Resources Mentioned:
The Citizen Article - Porn addiction at work has increased
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829 - Q&A 10+ Practical Tips To Quit Porn (From Personal Experience) with Sathiya and Shawn

Join us for our another live-coaching episode! We're excited to answer 2 live coaching questions today that are both VERY relevant to almost everyone who listens to this podcast.
Submit your questions below by clicking on the Submit Your Questions Here link.
Before we get into the coaching, Sathiya and Shawn dive into the ACTUAL steps along their recovery journey that made the most difference. This is one of the most valuable talks you'll hear on this podcast, and we highly encourage you to take notes and apply these 10+ things to your life.
Listener questions surround healing from insecurities that lead to unhealthy attachment and a difficulty quitting porn, and what to do to finally break free from a 20+ year addiction when you've tried a whole lot of things but haven't truly become free.
In this episode, we discuss:
1:43 10+ Extremely Practical Tips from Sathiya and Shawn's Own Successful Recovery Journeys
16:28 Question 1: How to heal from insecurities around romantic desires and attachments?
25:24 Question 2: How to truly break free after a 20+ year addiction when you've done a ton of work but none of it has had truly lasting results?
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Resources Mentioned:
Unwanted by Jay Stringer
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828 - Why Is Porn Bad?

We run a coaching program to help men break free from pornography addiction, we run a podcast to the same effect, we post on Instagram about it all the time...pretty safe to say we inherently understand and believe porn is bad.
Yet as we get more and more chances to speak to people in the "outside" or "secular" world, we're coming across more and more people who are asking us why porn is bad.
So, to answer that basic but very important question, we're dropping this episode today to show just HOW bad and harmful pornography is...to those watching and those acting.
Let this sink in and really ask yourself whether it's still worth it.
In this episode, we discuss:
0:35 What's ACTUALLY bad about porn?
2:54 Reframe...why is porn harmful?
3:20 The negative consequences of porn use
4:50 Physical side effects
6:14 Decreased sexual satisfaction and bad education
7:52 Broken relationship dynamics
8:23 The morality of pornography
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827 - Daniele Hage on Building Strong Marriages By Understanding The Needs of Men and Women

Daniele Hage is a wife, mom, pastor, podcaster, and speaker on all things relationship. She works with both wives and husbands, spending much of her time on helping women understand men to love them better, in order to build strong marriages.
In this episode, we talk about roles in marriage, the power and risks of men's sensitivity, the true weight of responsibility in marriage, how to communicate well with your spouse, healthy sexual intimacy, and more.
In this episode, we discuss:
0:00 Introducing Daniele Hage
2:54 Why are men so excited about Daniele's message?
6:49 Are there areas of life where gender roles are non-negotiable?
11:18 How to discern when to submit and when to seek counsel
14:50 Feminism's impact on society
19:36 The truth about male sensitivity
24:47 The (good) weight of responsibility
30:32 How to fix the #1 reported issue in relationships
38:14 How men relate to sex
43:08 What to do if you're in a sexless marriage
51:03 Building and raising strong families
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Resources Mentioned:
Daniele Hage on Instagram
Daniele Hage Podcast (Apple)
Daniele Hage Podcast (Spotify)
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826 - How To Create A Lifestyle of Freedom

We make a point to talk about recovering from pornography addiction as being FREE from pornography.
Almost all of us seek freedom in various aspects of life, and I want to share a couple of fundamental principles of what freedom actually looks like and how to start to develop it in your life...whether that's in work, time, money, addiction, or any other area of your life.
This is both fundamental and practical, and will hopefully fast track your own journey to freedom.
In this episode, we discuss:
0:30 How to get freedom in ALL areas of your life
2:19 Sathiya's personal story of addiction and powerlessness
7:02 The 2 core principles of freedom
7:43 Principle 1: Freedom = Options
8:48 Principle 2: Establish Priorities
9:57 Bonus Principle: Surround yourself with people who have freedom in the area you desire
12:31 Start with INNER freedom from vices
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825 - Q&A Getting Over Fear, Trusting God, and the Biblical Basis for Emotional Healing to Quit Prn with Sathiya and Shawn

Join us for our another live-coaching episode! We're excited to answer a question from a courageous man on the recovery journey, as well as a listener-submitted question.
Submit your questions below by clicking on the Submit Your Questions Here link.
Before we get into the coaching, Sathiya and Shawn dive into the impact of learning to experience and feel safety in your body in order to defeat old patterns and lies - and the harmful coping mechanisms they lead to, like pornography. They get into why it's important to do the work now to heal your past not just for you, but so that you don't pass these things on to your kids.
Listener questions surround learning how to trust God after feeling neglected by Him, and the Biblical basis for using psychology and looking into the emotional roots of addiction.
In this episode, we discuss:
2:28 Nervous system regulation and creating safety to get beyond your fears and coping mechanisms
14:47 Heal your fears so you don't pass them on to your kids
21:36 Question 1 (LIVE): How to truly make God my joy, instead of putting all the pressure on my wife? (Especially after recent slip ups after 1+ year sober)
31:34 Follow up: Grew up feeling neglected by God in a charismatic church...how do I ask Him for strategies when I don't feel the closeness?
36:10 Question 2: What's the biblical grounding of looking at the emotional roots to heal and become free from porn?
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Resources Mentioned:
How Attachment Affects Your Relationship With God Podcast Episode (Apple)
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824 - Three Major Changes To Expect When Quitting Porn

We focus a LOT on the negative consequences of porn addiction, and for good reason. The fear of pain is often more motivating than the promise of reward.
BUT...it can't be all about escaping consequences forever. That type of motivation will wear a man out after awhile if it's not balanced with some positive expectations.
Today we break down 3 of the major positive changes to look forward to when you get free from porn. Look forward with joy and hope!
In this episode, we discuss:
0:38 The joys awaiting you on the other side of freedom
2:42 Create a vision board of your porn-free life (why do you actually WANT to quit pornography?)
4:18 Change #1: You start to feel powerful
6:20 Change #2: You will feel purposeful...your life MATTERS
8:15 Change #3: You'll feel connected
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Resources Mentioned:
The Last Relapse (Free Book)
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823 - Josh Trent on Finding Peace Through Liberation

Josh is the founder of Wellness+Wisdom, a website, podcast, and community dedicated to helping you live life liberated.
In this episode, Sathiya and Josh discuss spiritual maturity, the pain and honesty required to achieve liberation (and why it's worth it), Josh's struggle and recovery from pornography, and the simple yet often-misunderstood path to true and lasting behaviour change.
In this episode, we discuss:
0:00 Intro to Josh and the framework of this conversation
4:23 The big WHY behind what Josh does with Wellness+Wisdom
10:46 What does it mean to be spiritually mature as a man in the 21st century?
12:33 Emotional epigenetics (and why Josh trademarked the term)
19:45 What does "wellness" truly mean?
25:58 How to find true freedom and peace through the process of liberation
32:41 What helped Josh break free from pornography
40:57 Practical behaviour change
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Resources Mentioned:
Wellness+Wisdom Podcast
Sathiya's Episode on the Wellness+Wisdom Podcast
Liberated Life Tribe
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