Man Within Podcast

468 - How To Squash Relapse Anxiety

At some point in recovery, you will experience anxiety about a relapse, especially as you make progress. Today's episode outlines 2 areas you must address when experiencing relapse anxiety. The first is the real reason for the anxiety.
Typically we resort to "fear of losing progress" or something of that nature, but if you dig a bit deeper you often find other areas that need more attention.
Secondly, we want to "fear-set" any anxiety we experience, especially when we make progress. What is the worst case scenario? How would you respond? Would you survive? Often fear-setting is exactly what is needed to give us a lift past the obstacles we're facing.
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467 - Still Clean In 2023?

With the first month of the year coming to an end, it's about time for a check-in. Today's episode explores 3 areas to assess your progress in 2023 so far – metrics, activity consistency, and relapse response. If you have a clear picture of where you stand in these 3 areas, there's a good chance you'll be able to course correct accordingly to ensure 2023 is the year you kick porn once and for all.
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466 - Should You Fake It Til You Make It?

Faking it til you make it has little to no value in most behavioral psychology circles. While it is easy to throw out the concept, today's episode explores some of the hidden truth that can be applied to a recovery context.
Calling yourself a "free man" doesn't make you free, but asking questions like "What would a free man do in this situation?" and acting accordingly can begin to shape your thinking until you become the person you long to be.
Today's episode explains this dynamic in more detail while offering some examples for you to follow.
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465 - Shaloma Sam on Marrying A Former Porn Addict, How To Survive Ongoing Trauma, and Why Weekly Date Nights Are A Gamechanger

Today's special episode features Sathiya's wife, Shaloma, on the podcast for the first time! Shaloma has quietly supported Sathiya behind the scenes, but today you get a chance to hear from Sathiya's far-better half. In this interview/discussion, Sathiya & Shaloma talk about:-What it's like to be married to a former porn addict-Why enduring so much hardship during engagement was a blessing in disguise-How trauma played into health challenges-Why upholding firm boundaries during dating/engagement was so valuable-How wives/women should handled hearing about their partner's struggle with porn
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464 - Whatever You Tolerate Eventually Dominates

The porn-addicted brain often asks "what can I get away with?" We are used to towing the line and playing with fire. Today's episode explains why we must become intolerant to anything that is remotely dangerous to our recovery, otherwise we risk it developing into something that derails our progress and dominates our lives.
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463 - 8 Instant Improvements From Quitting Porn

Recovery starts as a seed. While many wait until they hit big milestones, the reality is that every moment you are in recovery is PROGRESS. Today's episode outlines 8 improvements you can expect "instantly" once you begin to quit porn. While some of these changes are in seed form, the point here is that we are not to wait until we hit landmarks to deem our recovery "commendable". The minute you begin you must steward the 'seed' form of the benefits that are coming your way.
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462 - What Is Caught Is Better Than What Is Taught

Anyone who has had a struggle with sexual misbehavior wants to change things not only for themselves, but for their lineage. Using his own parents' example, Sathiya explains in this episode that sometimes leading by example is the best way to ensure your lineage walks in the freedom you want for them.
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461 - What To Do When Recovery Goes Horribly Wrong

Sometimes, recovery doesn't work out the way we intended. Either we make progress but not the progress we intended, we find ourselves in the same situation as when we started, or we find our situation worse than when we started.
Today's episode explains what to do in each of these situations, and how to know when to stop and when you need to keep on going.
 
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460 - Heidi Erickson on How Addiction Affects Loved Ones, The Process of Healing From Betrayal Trauma, and Why Safety Is So Important In Restoring A Relationship

Heidi is a therapist that specializes in betrayal trauma. She is especially passionate about addressing the specific needs of trauma unique to sexual and relational betrayal. Heidi's work with partners of addicts translates across the spectrum of addiction: chemical and process addictions including sex, drugs, alcohol and gambling. Additionally, Heidi works with depression, anxiety, addiction and transition and with clients from youth to later adulthood.  
If you are in a committed relationship and struggling with a sexual issue, this episode will give you tremendous insight into what your partner is experiencing and what will be required for your relationship to be completely restored. 
In today's episode, Heidi and Sathiya discuss:-What is ""betrayal trauma""?-The importance of a weekly check-in-FANOS method and why it significantly improves intimacy and connection-Appropriate boundaries for sex and conversation about the addiction-The imperative value of safety-The best part about going through the healing and recovery process
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459 - How To Turn Priorities Into Manageable Routines

It's one thing to set priorities for your life, it's another thing to execute. Today's episode explains 4 things to consider when you are looking to set new priorities in your life habitually, including:
1) The importance of integrating with pre-existing routines
2) Starting with the one thing that will have the greatest impact
3) Keeping it small and building up
4) Evaluating longevity
 
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