Man Within Podcast

787 - Lila Pisor on Betrayal Trauma and Healing Marriage After Addiction

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Lila Pisor is a betrayal trauma expert. We spend most of our time on this show talking about the male experience of pornography addiction, but it is absolutely vital that you understand the female experience of addiction and recovery.
Lila provided amazing wisdom and insights for you to understand what your significant other is going through, and how to build your relationship back up as you find freedom from pornography.
In this episode, we discuss:
0:00 Intro to Lila and why this is an important episode
3:20 Lila's story of betrayal
8:05 Marriage on the other side of reconciliation and recovery
11:45 Why get into this line of work helping other couples
13:32 What prompts people to finally take action and get help?
15:30 What about women who don't see it as their problem - only their husband's?
17:01 The impact on children
22:03 What are the actual steps to working through betrayal trauma?
32:40 What characteristics usually lead to success in recovery?
34:48 How men can heal relationships while they recover from addiction
Resources Mentioned:
Regener8 Mentoring
Adam Young Big Six
Adam Young Podcast
Your Sexually Addicted Spouse
Free Call With Lila for The Women Listening, or Your Significant Other
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786 - Identity Is Discovered, Not Achieved

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One of the most tragic things in the culture today is that so many of us think that our identity is something we have to achieve. Something we get from our performance. But as Christians, you and I need to remember that our identity is given to us already as believers in Christ. It's not about achieving it...it's about discovering it. We all have an infinitely full spiritual "bank account", but we need to constantly grow in how much we can access it.
In this episode, I discuss:
0:44 Submit your questions (link below)
3:21 The subject you just can't run away from...identity
4:34 What it actually means to be a "new creation"
5:58 Discover your identity, don't achieve it
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785 - Q&A Past Relationships, Libido Reduction, and Supporting a Struggling Son with Sathiya and Shawn

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Join Sathiya and DeepClean Head Coach Shawn Bonneteau on today's Q&A episode, where they answer listener-submitted questions!
Submit your questions below by clicking on the Submit Your Questions Here link.
We kick off this episode by opening a can of worms, discussing submission in marriage and the ideas of complementarianism vs egalitarianism. Then, we answer 3 of your questions on how to move past sexual immorality, whether you should use libido-reducing supplements, and how to help your son when you find out he's struggling with porn.
In this episode, we discuss:
1:03 Live coaching on the podcast SOON
6:04 Submission in the context of a marriage (complementarian vs egalitarian?)
16:12 Challenging judgement of non-traditional gender roles
22:57 Question 1: How do I heal from sexual immorality in a past relationship as I pursue a new woman in sexual integrity?
30:48 Question 2: Am I interfering with my recovery by using libido-reducing supplements?
35:33 Question 3: How do I support my teenage son in his recently-revealed struggle with pornography?
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Resources Mentioned
Sheila Wray Gregoire Podcasts on Complementarianism
Sheila Wray Gregoire IG
The Ruthless Elimination of Hurry by John Mark Comer
The Last Relapse (Free Book)
The Grief Recovery Method Books
The Big Six - What Every Child Needs From Their Parents
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784 - Is Sexual Sin Worse Than Other Sins

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Time to open up a can of worms. On the one hand, sexual sin is equal with other sins insofar as they fall short of God's perfection. However, I'm going to dive into 1 Corinthians 6 with you to show that sexual sin actually IS worse than other sins, and hopefully encourage you to walk in freedom and honour the living God by treating your body as the temple He deserves.
In this episode, I discuss:
0:53 Our free resources available to you, including my book (links below)
2:35 Laying out the argument of comparing or ranking sins
4:37 Sexual sin IS NOT worse than any other sin, BUT...
6:26 What 1 Corinthians tells us about sexual sin
8:17 Sexual sin IS worse than other sins, BECAUSE...
Resources:
The Last Relapse (get my book for free!)
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783 - Greg Oliver on Recovering From Addiction and Healing Your Marriage After Being Exposed

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Greg Oliver’s sexual addiction was exposed in 2009, bringing severe consequences, but also hope for a future free from addiction. God graciously used this exposure to transform Greg’s life, and now the lives of many other men. Greg is the Founder and Executive Director of Awaken, where he uses his own experience and skills to help other men break free from sexual addiction.
In this episode, we discuss:
2:43 Greg’s story of being caught in sexual sin and how it led to him now helping men recover from sexual brokenness
8:06 What’s changed over the past 9 years when it comes to helping men with recovery?
16:40 Not just behavior modification…new, better recovery resources
19:33 Challenges men face in the recovery process
22:45 How to build real, meaningful connections with people around you
26:28 Bringing your wife into your recovery for both your benefits (especially after a betrayal of trust)
33:30 What did Greg’s marriage look like during the recovery process?
37:28 What does it really mean to get to the root of the problem?
42:31 How Greg stays clean and free personally after many years in this space
Resources Mentioned:
Awaken
Johann Hari: Everything You Think You Know About Addiction Is Wrong TED Talk
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782 - How to Mend Relationships Damaged by Pornography

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One of the worst consequences of pornography addiction is the toll it takes on our intimate relationships. We've worked with too many clients who come to us after their wife has threatened divorce...or actually left them. But praise God, there IS hope to repair your relationships, and today I'm going to give you my 3 best tips to do so.
In this episode, I discuss:
0:58 Make sure to submit your questions for me and Shawn to answer (link below)
1:54 The huge consequences that porn has on relationships (including indirect ones you might not even realize)
5:05 Mend broken relationships through meaningful connection with others
6:36 Mend broken relationships by learning to trust yourself
8:15 Mend broken relationships through prayer (plus an incredible story of God's grace in answering prayer)
Resources:
The Last Relapse (get my book for free!)
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781 - Q&A 3 Mainstream Porn Recovery Tactics We Don't Love, Emotional Overwhelm, and Confession Boundaries with Sathiya and Shawn

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Join Sathiya and DeepClean Head Coach Shawn Bonneateau on today's Q&A episode, where they answer listener-submitted questions!
Submit your questions below by clicking on the Submit Your Questions Here link.
They explain why they're not massive fans of a few of the mainstream porn recovery methods, then answer questions on emotional overwhelm, confessing sexual thoughts to your wife, and understanding the effects of early trauma and how to move on.
In this episode, we discuss:
2:05 The three mainstream porn recovery methods and why we're not huge fans
4:11 Willpower
7:47 Internet Filters
14:43 Accountability groups
20:29 Question 1: How do I get better at handling emotional overwhelm so I don't turn to porn as a coping mechanism?
30:00 Question 2: What are some boundaries or guidelines you recommend in confessing sexual thoughts and behaviours to my wife?
39:30 Question 3: How to understand the effects of trauma as a young child, and how to move on
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Resources Mentioned
The Feel Wheel in my book, The Last Relapse
Unwanted by Jay Stringer
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780 - Unmasking the Lies - Debunking Myths about Pornography

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Pornography is still such a socially acceptable thing in our culture that the lies and myths surrounding it get perpetuated without nearly enough push back. In this episode, I debunk 7 myths that you've probably heard about porn that you might even believe. It's vital that we know the truth about just how destructive porn is so that we treat our recovery seriously!
In this episode, I discuss:
1:01 Free resources for listeners of this show (link below)
1:46 Why myths about pornography get perpetuated so easily
3:15 Myth 1: Porn addiction is only for hyper-sexual people
4:06 Myth 2: Porn is not as bad as other addictions
5:23 Myth 3: Porn addiction is only for people with moral or religious beliefs
7:02 Myth 4: Porn is a useful tool to spice up your sex life
8:09 Myth 5: Porn is educational and informative
10:08 Myth 6: Porn is free
10:39 Myth 7: Ethical porn is better than mainstream porn
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779 - Shane O'Neill on Pornography vs. Masturbation... What Are The Differences

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Regular podcast guest Shane O’Neill joins Sathiya once more to dive DEEP into a very nuanced subject…the difference between pornography and masturbation. We discuss whether one is worse than the other, the ways that each individual issue impacts us physically/spiritually/emotionally, some surprising research about fertility, and we even get personal about our own temptations. 
In this episode, we discuss:
2:48 Life updates from Sathiya and Shane
6:44 Initial thoughts distinguishing pornography use and masturbation
13:21 The deep issues with masturbation, and why pornography still seems worse
21:45 Thoughts on wet dreams…is it your body’s way of regulating?
27:49 Deeper dive into the differences between pornography and masturbation
32:40 What about practicing “distance intimacy” with your spouse (on video or a phone call)?
36:34 Personal temptations…are we more tempted to one issue than the other?
39:45 The clinching piece of evidence: fertility levels
44:20 Prayer requests
Resources Mentioned:
The Body Keeps The Score by Bessel Van Der Kolk
The Naked Gospel Podcast
Proven Ministries
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778 - The Surprising Link Between Physical Health and Recovery

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If you're courageous enough to do the work of getting to the root of the issue that's causing you to seek pornography, there's a good chance you'll level up in other areas of your life, including physical fitness. I share a little about my own fitness journey and how it relates to becoming free of pornography, while discussing the fact that you start to look at your body and self-care differently when you quit porn.
In this episode, I discuss:
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1:32 The physical side-effects of porn
3:25 Starting to look at your body differently when you quit pornography
6:45 My journey quitting pornography and getting into shape
10:44 We can forget that other areas of our lives are impacted by our pornography addiction
Resources:
The 5 Physical Side-Effects of Porn Addiction Episode
Sal Di Stefano
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