Monday Feb 21, 2022
222 - Should I Stop Having Sex While Recovering?
Today's episode tackles whether or not you should be having sex while you are recovering from porn and masturbation. Some argue that sex activates the same neural circuits you are trying to rewire away from porn and sexual misbehavior, while others argue that engaging in healthy sex is actually an important part of the healing journey. While both are valid points, today's episode explains which argument is correct.
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3 years ago
whatever she needs to heal and rebuild safety? Again, I think you dealt with this issue excellently and I agree with your conclusions. I just want to encourage you (and so many other men seeking to help other men recover in this area) to not only consider the perspective of the husband, but also to encourage those husbands to prioritize and honor as well the perspectives of their wives. Thanks for the good work you are doing, Sathiya!
3 years ago
his recovery must also include the abandonment of self-seeking behaviors and he must in humility learn to consider and include his wife and her best interest. Therefore, it becomes an integral part of the “ or abstinence?” discussion to ask how SHE feels. Has he rebuilt trust and emotional intimacy so that she feels safe to engage sexually? Or is he still so focused on self that he is only considering what HE wants and not on her justified feelings of hurt, distrust, and distance, and doing
3 years ago
I appreciated the nuance here. One important thing, though, that I think is missing from the conversation is whether the wife feels safe and desires to partake in sexual intimacy. While i agree that it is important for a man to figure out for himself what will best contribute to his recovery and integrity, if he is in a marriage and has betrayed his wife with the usage of pornography or other “sexual misbehavior” as you put it, then his acts and attitudes of entitlement must be acknowledged and